1. Do you have a parent, close friend or relative
whose drinking upsets you?
2. Do you cover up your real feelings by
pretending that you don't care?
3. Are holidays and gatherings spoiled because of
drinking?
4. Do you tell lies to cover up for someone
else's drinking or what's happening in your home?
5. Do you stay out of the house as much as
possible because you hate it there?
6. Are you afraid to upset someone or fear it
will set off a drinking bout?
7. Do you feel nobody really loves you or cares
what happens to you?
8. Are you afraid or embarrassed to bring your
friends home?
9. Do you think the drinker's behavior is caused
by you, other members of your family, friends, or rotten breaks in life?
10. Do you make threats such as, "If you
don't stop drinking, fighting, I'll run away?"
11. Do you make promises about behavior, such as,
"I'll get better school marks, go to church or keep my room
clean" in exchange for a promise that the fighting and drinking will
stop?
12. Do you feel that if your mom or dad loved you,
he or she would stop drinking?
13. Do you ever threaten or actually hurt yourself
to scare your parents into saying "I'm sorry," or "I love
you"?
14. Do you believe no one could possibly
understand how you feel?
15. Do you have money problems because of someone
else's drinking?
16. Are mealtimes frequently delayed because of
the drinker?
17 . Have you considered calling the police
because of the drinker's abusive behavior?
18. Have you refused dates out of fear or anxiety?
19 . Do you think your problems would be solved if
the drinking stopped?
20 . Do you ever treat people (teachers,
schoolmates, teammates, etc.) unjustly because you are angry at someone
else for drinking too much?
If you answered yes to some of these questions, Alateen
may be able to help you. You can contact Al-Anon or Alateen by looking in
your local telephone directory or by emailing to:
webmaster@miafg.org
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©1981
